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De-Clutter 2012: 5 Steps to De-Clutter Sentimental Items

When my brothers and I graduated from college, we brought everything home to my parent’s house….30 years ago. They moved to the current house sixteen years ago and the move didn’t stop my mom from purging those old skanky things. She still has some of our old relics, scattered around her house.

She’s not a hoarder, although some Scandinavians might disagree, but she’s can’t ‘let go’ of things from the past. I think I am a bit like her, unfortunately, albeit not as bad. I can’t refuse souvenirs from families and friends.

“Oh, the nail clipper/screwdriver/bottle opener tool is really practical, and the cute picture of the dolphin and Florida on the front will make it easy to spot it in the drawer!” In, goes another souvenir to the drawer to join four other knick knacks from places far and exotic. And I can’t get rid of them.

A few souvenirs here and there are not too over bearing to deal with but how about if you inherited a room full of sentimental items from a loved one passing or a child moving out leaving majority of his belongings, or worse, moving back in and then, leaving, without his/her college belongings?

Don’t worry – Real Simple offers these useful tips on how to deal with sentimental de-clutter.

How to deal with Sentimental De-CLutter

  1. Box It Up – Don’t let fate determine what you save and what you don’t. Even if you’re not ready to purge, put things in ‘question boxes,’ label them, and store them somewhere safe from mold and mildew. If you happen upon obvious junk, toss it. If you need some time to sort things out, grieving because of a death, downsizing into a smaller home, or in an empty-nest situation, it’s best to wait about six months before sorting through.
  2. Avoid Purger’s Regret – When you’re stuck about whether to keep or throw out, ask yourself: What’s significant about this object? Does it have genuine, lasting emotional value? Do I like it enough to display it, or will it be in a box forever? Would it be more valuable to someone else?
  3. Take a Picture (It Lasts Longer) – sure, a digital image is not the real thing. But storing something on a computer doesn’t just save space; it also minimizes risk from being destroyed or damaged. You can send old snapshots and have them converted to digital form by services like gophoto.com. You might also want to photograph meaningful items before letting them go. And if you’re clearing a whole house after, for example, the loss of a loved one, taking pictures of the rooms first, or asking a friend to, if the task is too emotional. You can make books at blurb.com to preserve the memories. This method is especially great for preserving children’s artwork. After you’ve taken photos of the original pieces, you can send them to grandparents (Ahem) or recycle. Their memories will live on in the computer or on photo sharing websites like Photobucket or Flickr.
  4. Save the Best—Toss the Rest – Meaning, keep one to represent many. Keep one t-shirt that a child loved to wear or a hospital blankie and the baby hat you brought your baby home in. You don’t need to hold on to every onesie she/he ever wore, stains and all. Save one baseball jersey from your son’s little league days or the girl scout vest but not the whole uniform. Same goes for boy scouts or any other sports kids played. Better yet, make a memory blanket for him or her to take to college, like I did, with all the favorite t-shirts.
  5. Know Your ABC’s (Always Be Clearing) Your relationship to sentimental items will probably change over time. Take a memory inventory once in awhile by looking at an item and evaluate what your relations is. If you don’t’ feel the same attachment to it, toss it. It’s ok.

How is your de-cluttering going? Do you have a bunch of memorabilia that you can’t throw out?

We are going to have a giveaway when the challenge ends so stay tuned and find out how you can continue to de-clutter your life and stay organized, even after the challenge is over.

[CC Image by roy.luck via Flickr]

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12 comments
Cassi Jensen
Cassi Jensen

there are some good suggestions on this thread, thanks to all of you. It's nice to know other people have the same difficulties knowing what to do with family memorabilia.

dwhite2762
dwhite2762

I thought of another way of getting rid of sentimental things. My biggest issue is any drawing, paper, note from my children and grandchildren. I keep them in a box but the box is getting really full. When we moved to our current home, we had to downsize by about 75%. So my husband and I carefully read each note and drawing that we had saved over 20 years. Then, with a glass of wine, we burned them. I kept the most precious and we were able to turn many boxes into one which we labeled. For my grandchildren, I will take pictures and turn them into a CD (but I'll keep the most precious).

Donna
Donna

Sounds like a wonderful farewell and a wonderful idea.

Donna
Donna

I found out one of the easiest ways to declutter and break the ties with "sentimental" stuff that I was hanging onto in case my children would someday want them. I had an 'ah-ha!' moment and simply asked them, (they are all in their late teens and mid twenties) "Do you guys want any of these things from Grandma, Aunt so and so, etc?" They all said, "No, but thanks anyway". Yay! That took care of the dilemma I had with what to do with all the stuff that was taking up valuable space in my tiny home! I was over with the sentimentality of it all and this added even more gumption to finally let go. Maybe this will help someone else. Cheers!

ecokaren
ecokaren

That is brilliant! Thanks for sharing! I'll ask my kids when i'm not sure whether to keep it or not.

dwhite2762
dwhite2762

I started this weekend on my closet and bedroom drawers. As a child of a hoarder, I can still hear that voice in my head that I can use this somewhere else, it still fits, I can give this to someone else but these only stall my decisions. I got rid of 2 large bags but then I realized I can do more. My resolve is to get rid of all clothes that make me feel ugly, old and dumpy. My next task will be the jewelry box! It felt really good to take some time to do this on the weekend. My closet is pretty bare now.

Cassi Jensen
Cassi Jensen

I empathize, totally. My mother and step-dad grew up in the Depression AND the Dust Bowl and money was tight, luxuries were few and you always reused, recycled, refurbished.. not bad advice, as it turns out, but as a result they kept EVERYTHING. And when my mother began to show signs of dementia, the holding on to "things" became more intense. Good luck on the clearing out.. it is freeing, isn't it? :)

ecokaren
ecokaren

Yeah, growing up in the olden days does make it hard to throw away things. They always think they'll use them some day. My mother is the best role model for recycling and up cycling household items because she always find ways to reuse something.

Cassi Jensen
Cassi Jensen

This is very timely advice for me. Since my mom's passing, I'm overwhelmed with boxes of old photos,many with NO info on the back. The sheer numbers of them are daunting. I have an online family website, and have been scanning and uploading many. Do I also keep them (hard copies) and put in albums or discard? (I have a small condo and storage space is precious) I should add that my mother, God rest her, was a hoarder of books, photos, clothes, household items, etc. She had two storage lockers the last few years of her life that she spent too much money on, just to keep "stuff". I don't want to go down that road, obviously!

Holly
Holly

If you do decide to get rid of any, I hope you find a mixed-media artist to give them to instead of putting them in landfill. You would get a huge thank you, I just know it! You could mail them to this guy! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ZKDx9CuMRg&feature=related

ecokaren
ecokaren

Hi Holly, Yes, donating comes before trashing! Thanks for the reminder.

ecokaren
ecokaren

I would throw out the scanned photos. Why keep the original when you have them saved? It must be hard to go through all her things. A friend of mine hired someone to auction her mom's things after taking out the real sentimental things, like her jewelry. I think it was a great idea. She was letting someone else to be in charge, leaving her free from being indecisive. Good Luck!